If this girl was not bullied, would she have even thought about cosmetic surgery? If she was my daughter I would teach her about inner beauty and help her with a different kind of education, such as helping others who have worse deformities than her like kids overseas with cleft palates that can’t afford surgery. and I would definitely teach her how to deal with bullies. there is nothing wrong with her “before” photo whatsoever. no one’s nose is perfect, nor are anyone’s ears. She is pretty now but she was pretty before also, if a bit sad because of being bullied a lot. her having cosmetic surgery sends the wrong message to those bullies and to her school.
Posted by: concerned educator | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 8:38 am
Concerned Educator, All you said is true and Good. But you left out something that should be first. Children need to be taught not to bully and be so mean! we shouldn’t have to teach kids how to deal with bullies. the bullies need to be taught how to deal with people.
Posted by: RRRRRRRRRRRR | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 9:13 am
What an amazing way to Give back to society, doing what you know best, that is what Dr Romo did. he does FREE surgery on people who have deformities and need the surgery but cannot afford it. in a real world bullying can not be based on appearances but apparently that is not the world we live in. as a mom i would certainly take my kids to fix their deformities if they needed it.
Posted by: jodi | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 9:16 am
Posted by: Olivia | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 10:05 am
I will forgive but I will not forget thats true. It’s sad how people use hurtful words and don’t know how bad it hurts other people. they look at it as a joke and tease the person about it everytime, and most bullies pick on people because they say their an “easy target”. Sad how people have nothing else to do but to bully others.
Posted by: Malaysha | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 12:50 pm
@concerned educator. Life for most is not seeking oppurtunties to absorb violence to enlighten others. This young woman wanted to change her apperance, her mother supported, a qualified surgeon accomadated. She should not be judged or criticized because of your idealogical quest. it is the bullies who are flawed and their flaws inflict pain on innocents. the bullies have already received the wrong message, that is the issue. For you to hold her respondsible to change their ways in insensitive at best, foolish at worst.
Posted by: Reyrip | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 1:02 pm
what will they make fun of next? her clothes? her makeup? her hair? her shoe size? should she change all of those things to make people happy? She was so beautiful before the surgery. I can’t believe this nonsense.
Posted by: thoughtful one | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 6:53 pm
How was this child deformed? what the hell she looked perfectly fine. Everyone has a little quirk about themselves. I think she looked like a cute kid. What horrible little monsters are there that picked on her should be getting surgery, preferrably to remove their tongues, and thier parents should have their breeding rights taken away. Why in our society do we encourage the victim to change when they have done nothing wrong? do we honestly believe that they will stop bullyign her after the plastic surgery? they foudn their mark and they will continue to be jsut as cruel. Bullies don’t need a reason. are we such a society of bullies that we side with the bully and think there must be something wrong with the victim?
Posted by: sevey | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 6:56 pm
I had my ears pinned back when I was 11 in 1977. it was the BEST thing my Mom could have done for me. I was bullied before surgery. I also benefited by starting Jr high in a new school district so no one @ the new school even knew about my ears before so it was a completely fresh start…clean slate. I know it helped me be more confident & outgoing post surgery. My Mom was wise beyond her years. Thanks Mom…i wouldn’t be the person I am today…& I like me.
Posted by: Lynnette H | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 11:25 pm
I think she looked better before the after pic looks unnatural. I think kids need to carry recording devices if they are bullied and then record what the other child said. Then the bully needs to sit down with their parents and listen to the recording over and over and explain why they said it then develop a plan to fix the bully. My son has Asperger’s cannot fix that with surgery he get bullied all the time. Fixing the child that gets bullied is not the answer it is the bully that needs fixing.
Posted by: Kelly R | August 10, 2012 August 10, 2012, 10:55 am
I think it’s terrible that being who you are is considered a ‘disability.’ She has no idea what a real disability is! and for her mother to teach her that plastic surgery is the answer is only setting her up to fail in life. her mother did her a true injustice. there are going to be things in life that you can’t change by just going under the knife. It’s horrible she’s being bullied, but her mother should’ve really stepped up by going to the school board and the parents. This story disgusts me.
Posted by: Manda H | August 10, 2012 August 10, 2012, 12:15 pm
I am 35 years old and my ears stick out… like WAY out. they always have. I dealt with the embarrassment and humiliation of being made fun of all throughout school and even now in my adulthood I still get it now and again. I have always wanted to have them pinned back but because I have a rare bleeding disorder the risk of bleeding out is too high for an elective surgery. What most people are misunderstanding in this girl’s story is that wanting the surgery wasn’t just to silence the verbal abuse from her bullies at school, it was also to silence her own “inner bully” that spoke to her every time she looked into the mirror… that little voice inside her head that made her feel insecure about her looks. I KNOW how terrible it is to want so desperately to throw your hair into a ponytail and head out the door but instead opt to wear it down so not to feel like every eye is on you. even now I won’t wear a ponytail because I KNOW that everyone WILL notice them (how could they not). I can’t bear knowing that everyone I pass will think to themselves, “wow those are some big ears. Poor girl”. Obviously, we are not all made the same on the outside so it stands to reason we aren’t all made the same on the inside either so while some of you may be strong-willed and hard-headed enough to push through and get over all your flaws, some of us just don’t find it that easy & that is why plastic surgery exists. its not the right answer for everyone but for some its the right one.
Posted by: SunniD | August 10, 2012 August 10, 2012, 2:10 pm
I have protruding ears also, and was bullied all my life because of it. I was called Dumbo even from my siblings. I never had a boyfriend in school because of it or many friends. I have never worn my hair behind my ears, and never have had it “up”. When i saw this on teleivision i just broke in tears because i know what she has gone thru. My heart goes out to her and congratulations to her for getting the surgery. one day if i can ever afford it i will have it. I am 52 years old now and I still do not wear my hair up or behind my ears. God Bless the Doctors that helped her and did the surgery for her.
Posted by: Teresa Madsen | August 11, 2012 August 11, 2012, 2:07 pm
I’m glad she’s happy with her choice and the outcome. I’m happy there are doctors willing to help. however I’m in camp “She looked fine before”. I opened the page and said to myself, “what a cute kid” re the “before” pic. (also, I beg to differ with the mother re braces. Straight teeth give you a chance at healthy gums for life. Bad bite, crowding, etc, makes a variety of health issues more problematic – you know, breathing, stuff like that.)
Unless no one mentioned it, this girls’ changes seem only cosmetic.
If someone has resources to spare, toss them at programs that improve Communication. For less than 40k, bring a behaviorist into the school to work with all students on an awareness and improvement plan.
People are not born with communication skills and self-esteem, we require nurturing and instruction in how to deal with your place in the world or we suffer the consequences in our broken and hurt inner selves.
Communications seems to be a theme beyond bullying in this girls’ situation. there are limited helpful resources for parents of children with disabilities (and I mean the son with CP). Also, I’ve noted that teachers do not make it a priority to have robust supportive communication with children because of the priorities and limitation of our public education system. Admins and teachers cannot make bonding with the students a top priority because as budgets are more and more squeezed, school staff is asked to pick up the slack to help the school survive. it would be great if there were behaviorists available in every school district, but it’s expensive in dollars. Compared to the “price” of the loss of bullies to suicide, depression, or substance abuse, I think it would be worth it.
Posted by: Jeanette | August 11, 2012 August 11, 2012, 9:05 pm
What a terrible waste of money on vanity. That charity should have gone to someone who had a legitimate health related need. the girl should have been giving a shrink instead. even though she “feels more confident”; it’s all superficial. instead of being given coping skills that would help her her entire life, as well as making her a much more natural functioning human being. now all she learned is that by changing yourself and conforming to fit in is a healthy and viable way to live.I’m sure everyone has been bullied or poorly treated at some point in their life and of that number it is safe to assume the great majority simply learned to deal with it (with or without help either is fair). What will she cry for next when the girls and boys start making fun of her for being flat chested, or maybe her butt isn’t the right shape? Is she just going to get surgery to correct that instead of using the coping skills she didn’t bother to learn this time around? bottom line: a frivolous and ultimately more harmful than helpful waste of money on vanity. As they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions and it has never rung truer here.
Posted by: TeddyKGB | August 12, 2012 August 12, 2012, 6:58 am
I find it amazing that most responders have focused on this young girl’s ears. Did no one notice that she had corrective surgery on her nose and chin? Correcting defects in the (probable) deviation(s) of the nasal septum is hardly cosmetic. had a profile photo been included, a (probable) mandibular misalignment would also be more noticeable, and surgical intervention would not be purely cosmetic, also.
Kudos to Dr. Romo. best wishes to Nadia. I hope you perservere through school and become successful as an adult so that you can pay this forward for another young person.
Posted by: Kim Roberts | August 12, 2012 August 12, 2012, 11:42 am
Kim R: Point taken, perhaps there was a medical issue with the chin or nose, however it seems the reason people are focusing on the ears is because the article focuses on them? (And the girl may have as well or it might just be the way the article was put together.) the point being, that the focus on the ears and wanting to kill herself over being made fun of makes her seem vain and overly superficial. now you might have a point, but it seems (according the article) she didn’t give a damn about the medical implications of her possible deformities and only cared about the social implications. it is still a grave disservice not to treat the emotional trauma through a mental health professional that could help her develop coping skills as well as maybe a better opinion of herself not so reliant on externalities. Any healthcare professional would be remiss ethically, professionally as well as in conscience to not provide more help than slapping a band-aid fix like this “doctor” has done.
Posted by: TeddyKGB | August 12, 2012 August 12, 2012, 3:43 pm
I read all the comments including the one from “Jeanette”. What idiots to go on and on about improving the bully. Bullies aren’t going away. They’ve been on this earth from the beginning of time and they aren’t leaving. her mom did the right thing. I know. At the age of 3 I was in a car accident that forever changed the way my face would look. Scars? no. Bone damage and deformity? Oh, yes. and all my life I’ve heard about it. From the jerk in the store making remarks about the ‘dog’ walking by, to coworkers, dates, and more. you can talk all you want about developing self confidence and learning to love the real you, but that doesn’t soothe hurt feelings. Confidence can only take just so much beating. My mother believed it was better to teach me to love myself. Crap. I love me just fine. Doesn’t make me feel any better about the way I look. I’m 53 now and as I age the problem, visually, is worse and worse. I totally support this girl and her mom. the reality is that part of our self esteem is based on the way others perceive us. That’s a fact. Here’s another. What you consider a disability may not be a disability to the one who has it. What you think is not a disability, really may be. I have a High Functioning Autistic teenager who does not consider this to be a disability. She’s sick of people who think it is. On the other hand, she looked at this and felt this girl had a physical deformity that can – and should – be fixed. If a child has a problem that makes them unhappy and it can be fixed, do it. Life’s too short to get caught up in stupid attitudes. and Jeanette – Vanity? You’re a woman. Vanity is – and should – be our middle name. Otherwise, we just all turn into old hags. She’s young. Vanity is cool. I hate to see what you look like if you’re a woman and you don’t have a little vanity. It’s okay to drive the newest and best car, have the fanciest house, eat at the nicest restaurants, take the most exclusive trips, but heaven forbid we should have any vanity. Bull hockey.
This girl is beautiful and she’s happy. way to go Mom. Hooray for the doctor who did the work.
Posted by: CD | August 14, 2012 August 14, 2012, 12:59 am
This article makes me sick. Basically, I am this girl. I have huge ears, I was called Dumbo in school, I had the song “I believe I can fly” dedicated to me by my classmates multiple times and I’m surviving. Half of the parents out there are not teaching their kids the implications of bullying and the other half aren’t teaching their kids the self-confidence and strength needed to stand up to their bullies. instead, we’re teaching our kids that if you don’t like something about your life, your face, etc….you can buy your way to a solution. or, go to someone with a sob story and hopefully you’ll get something for free. That doctor is a disgrace. This girl was not deformed, she had more noticeable features than some other kids but I cannot believe how selfish people can be. her sibling has Cerebal Palsy….if anyone knows anything about that disease, you can be handicapped, deformed, etc as a result, I’m sure that her issues were nothing compared to her sibling so the fact that this happened is appauling. I can understand surgery such as this for victims of accidents or who arew born with deformities but for a 14 year old girl who was being bullied it is absolute bull. I think this proves how vain and lazy the world is.
Posted by: kakaencha | August 14, 2012 August 14, 2012, 1:13 pm
Posted by: Peggy | August 14, 2012 August 14, 2012, 3:37 pm
There was nothing wrong with her nose and chin – they fell perfectly into the realm of normal. her ears were what go the attention and teasing. I can understand the ear tuck, but there is no reason this beautiful girl needed to have work on other parts of her face.
Posted by: pfk | August 14, 2012 August 14, 2012, 6:32 pm
Any boy or girl with ears like she had would have wanted surgery to correct the ears – they were bad. and she only asked for the ear job – it was the doctor who added the nose and chin. there is health reasons behind the nose – breathing had to been affected, as you will note how crooked her nose was between the eyes; and I’ll bet the chin surgery will help in future denistry needs – or lack of them.
I definitely side with the ones who have/had similar ear problems. they know that when your ears stick out so far that it limits your hairstyle so basically – and a boy/man can’t barely put a hat over his head without the ears sticking out and lifting the hat…this is major. It’s not a slightly messed up nose or a willowry body where small breasts go with it, and a boob-job would throw the body off. This gal won’t request anything – she got the ear job she really needed. I wish the others who commented who need a similar operation could get it.
Posted by: Virginia Gilley | August 16, 2012 August 16, 2012, 5:23 pm
Wonderful for this girl to have this done. People, especially kids, can be so cruel. Also, wonder if the mother might be covering up large ears under her hair? If so, how has she dealt with it? just a thought…
Posted by: Jolie | August 17, 2012 August 17, 2012, 8:59 pm
I had a child who suffered bullying in school to a ridiculous level. I was born to parents who taught me to appreciate all that I am, but that can only take you so far. If you are constantly being teased about a physical feature that can be corrected and you are able to have that correction done then bully for you. It’s a shame that some of you have no compassion and are unable to identify with this girl. I’m happy for her and I pray for continued success and a life of fulfilling dreams for Nadia.
Posted by: Evelyn | August 18, 2012 August 18, 2012, 11:00 pm
Posted by: Evelyn | August 18, 2012 August 18, 2012, 11:01 pm
For those of you who compare her to her brother, stating “imagine what he’ll have to go through”…it depends. I have CP, but it’s not as apparent as this little guys. I was picked on horrendously, primarily due to my looking “normal” but with a slightly funny walk. the kids at my school who had an obvious disability were generally left alone, except for a few ignorant arseholes. it really depends. he may be just fine, and maybe not, it’s not a given.
Posted by: Laurie | August 19, 2012 August 19, 2012, 1:01 pm
Ack, she looks worse than before. Come on guys, you can’t go changing yourself, it won’t make them stop making fun of you. just a case of ugly duckling, she WOULD have grown up beautiful if she didn’t do that to herself.
Posted by: c | August 20, 2012 August 20, 2012, 1:15 pm
People call me dumbo because i got big ears and a big nose…. but i look at it this way…. God’s creations are all beautiful…. nothing he creates in this world is ugly…. i used to get bullied all the time wen i was younger but now as i grow older it has reduced although people still spit out rude remarks…. I laugh it off and always remember that no one matters in this world but the love of GOD…. God always will deal with those who hurt others…. all you need to do is pray for peace in your heart and everything in the world will look beautiful to you… but congratulations
Posted by: Maria | August 21, 2012 August 21, 2012, 6:57 am
Bullied 14-Year-Old Girl Gets Plastic Surgery to Fix Ears, Nose, Chin