Plastic surgery is huge in Korea because there are a lot of Koreans who are obsessed with their appearance. It’s not just women, either.The biggest surgery in Korea I think is eyelid surgery. Koreans think that ‘double eyelids’ are very beautiful. now in the west, we don’t even know what double eyelids are because it’s not something we think about. we are considered to have double eyelids if you have a fold when your eyes are open. Almost all western people have them. With asians its split though, some have them, some don’t. so, most korean girls get surgery for this fold above their eye. It’s actually often a graduation gift. Ive known many of my students to have had it done. of course, if surgery freaks you out too much, there is also a special tape you can use to create the crease above your eye.Another surgery that is less common is jaw surgery. Koreans believe that having a V line (pointy chin that curves up like a V towards your ears) is the perfect look. so some have surgery if they have square like jaws.There is also nose surgeries that are very common as well. a lot of koreans lack a nose bridge, and in order to give them more contour on their face, they make their noses larger with surgery. The funny thing about it all is that Koreans actually all look very different, but when they get plastic surgery, that’s when they start to look alike.The picture below is an alternative to jaw surgery, its a face wrap. They have a lot of products like this that are suppose to shape your face…. I personally don’t think they work…
Background: the ears are often a forgotten facial structure if they are normal in shape and blend into the side of the face. but when they stick out too far or have an abnormal shape or proportions, they become noticeable and an aesthetic liability. Such is the case with the large earlobe.
The earlobe is an anatomically distinct element of the ear. not only because it hangs down on the bottom of the ear and is a common adornment site for jewelry, but also because it contains no cartilage. the rest of the ear with its complex morphology of hills and valleys is supported by underlying cartilage. while this cartilage is covered by skin, most of it is fairly flexible and bendable. but with age, its shape does not change. Such is not the case with the earlobe.
The earlobe contains only skin and fat. thus like much of the rest of the face, it can stretch and sag with aging. it does not have the benefit of stiffer cartilage support. it can ‘grow’ with aging and this lengthening effect is often exaggerated by heavy ear ring wear. so it is true that the ears do grow with age by virtue of being stretched. Large earlobes can also occur by simply being born that way. Such is the case in most men with large earlobes while earlobe stretching is a more common cause of large earlobes in women.
Case Study: this 62 year-old male had long been bothered by his ears. He had been teased as a child about his large ears and it had bothered him ever since. his ear issues were two fold, the upper portion of his ears stuck out too far and his earlobes were large. He now had the courage to finally do something about it.
Under local anethesia, both ears were treated. the upper portion of his ears was approached through an incision on the backside where the cartilagee was reshaped. With permanent sutures, the antihelical fold was accentuated so that the ear laid back closer to the side of the head. his earlobes were reduced nearly 50% in size by a wedge reduction, removing the central portion of the earlobe. this reduced both the height and the width of the earlobe. Antibiotic ointment was applied to the earlobes and there were no other dressings used.
Her postoperative course had some mild swelling but otherwise did not affect his lifstyle or work. He showered and washed his hair the next day. Earlobe sutures were removed one week later. by three months after surgery, the scars on his earlobes had faded and could not be seen.
Earlobe reduction is a simple and highly effective procedure whose results will be permanent. it has minimal after surgery care and heals very quickly. the scars fade remarkably fast and are rarely a secondary aesthetic concern. it can be combined with other ear or facial procedures.
• Large earlobes can occur naturally or as a result of aging.
• Earlobes can be reduced by a variety of excisional methods with minimal scarring.
• Earlobe reductions can be done under local anesthesia as an office procedure or as part of other facial procedures under general anesthesia.
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When I read the article about the bullied girl who had plastic surgery on her ears, nose and chin because she was tired of being taunted and teased, it bothered me on many levels. I know what bullying is like, and I’ll agree that it’s awful. However, I felt that such changes were drastic and that there were some deeper issues as to why this girl couldn’t accept herself the way she was. as the surgeon, I would have recommended counseling before going through such procedures. Instead, he said she had “deformities.” I’ve seen deformities and I don’t feel that this girl was “deformed” in any way. She could have done other things to make herself feel more confident, such as getting her hair cut and styled to make her ears stick out less and frame her face better. I also read another article about something similar, involving nose jobs and botox for teens.
I think this girl could have also gone to her mother or talked to an adult she trusted at the school about how bad the bullying was. Instead, she kept silent as it continued to escalate. And when she finally told her mom, instead of working through the problem together, her mom immediately resorted to plastic surgery. I think it was like saying that was the solution–or that she also couldn’t accept her daughter’s physical appearance, either.
Another factor in all this is that girls who are deemed to be attractive have been bullied, as well. They’re seen as a potential threat when it comes down to the bully liking a guy and seeing him talk to certain girls. in the case of Phoebe Prince, a girl who committed suicide over two years ago as a result of bullying, she was attractive and girls made up rumors about her because she was talking to guys they liked. The bullies even got the guys on their side to gang up on her. So being attractive isn’t always the key to staying free of bullies.
Growing up, I had wild curly hair that would get frizzy all the time. Naturally, I got teased over this fact often. People would call me names or ask if I stuck my finger in an electric socket. However, I never once thought of straightening it or keeping it hidden under a hat. (I did, however, take sick days from school when I was having a bad hair day. I could only take so much from people.) When I was in high school, I became friends with other girls who had curly hair and we’d wear it wildly and proudly. Being Jewish, my hair defined me…but so did my nose, which is slightly crooked if you look at me from the side, and red on top because of an accident in high school. However, as much as my mom would try to pressure me to get a nose job, I never wanted to. I saw girls having it done, but was too scared to get one myself. I think I read one too many articles about Jennifer Grey and thought the idea of something changing my face or making me unrecognizable would be too awful to even fathom!
As a mom, I worry about potential bullying and have already talked to my sons about not making fun of people for their differences. However, I haven’t talked to them much about how to handle being bullied and I realize that this is a discussion we need to have soon. my son E wears a cochlear implant, which already makes him stand out a bit. he has been confident about his implant and thankfully his school conducts a seminar for kindergarten students about hearing loss, since it’s so prevalent in his school. now that he’s in first grade, it’s going to be a whole new playing field. hopefully the kids will have retained what they learned about hearing loss and will continue to be accepting. I do worry about the kids who decide it’s a reason for them to be mean to him and how he’ll handle it when that happens. Even thinking about it breaks my heart. my daughter also has cochlear implants and I worry that she’ll face challenges as she gets older and has to deal with possible “mean girls.”
All I can do to combat this is to educate my kids about how to handle bullies–and instill confidence in them about their cochlear implants and why they are so important to wear. I clearly can’t give them new cochleas in their ears the way I had LASIK done for my eyes (which was done to help my vision, more than for vanity, as I looked cute in glasses). I’m also not going to suggest plastic surgery as an answer to their problems. I think my kids are adorable and wouldn’t change a thing about their physical appearance. I just hope they have enough confidence in themselves to deal with whatever comes their way as they get older.
Melissa a. and her husband have 2 sons and a baby daughter. Melissa’s daughter and one of her sons have hearing loss and wear cochlear implants. Melissa works as an administrative assistant for a non-profit and also runs a bullying prevention group and a book-related fan group, in addition to blogging for Empowering Parents. You can check out Melissa’s personal blog here.
If this girl was not bullied, would she have even thought about cosmetic surgery? If she was my daughter I would teach her about inner beauty and help her with a different kind of education, such as helping others who have worse deformities than her like kids overseas with cleft palates that can’t afford surgery. and I would definitely teach her how to deal with bullies. there is nothing wrong with her “before” photo whatsoever. no one’s nose is perfect, nor are anyone’s ears. She is pretty now but she was pretty before also, if a bit sad because of being bullied a lot. her having cosmetic surgery sends the wrong message to those bullies and to her school.
Posted by: concerned educator | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 8:38 am
Concerned Educator, All you said is true and Good. But you left out something that should be first. Children need to be taught not to bully and be so mean! we shouldn’t have to teach kids how to deal with bullies. the bullies need to be taught how to deal with people.
Posted by: RRRRRRRRRRRR | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 9:13 am
What an amazing way to Give back to society, doing what you know best, that is what Dr Romo did. he does FREE surgery on people who have deformities and need the surgery but cannot afford it. in a real world bullying can not be based on appearances but apparently that is not the world we live in. as a mom i would certainly take my kids to fix their deformities if they needed it.
Posted by: jodi | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 9:16 am
Posted by: Olivia | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 10:05 am
I will forgive but I will not forget thats true. It’s sad how people use hurtful words and don’t know how bad it hurts other people. they look at it as a joke and tease the person about it everytime, and most bullies pick on people because they say their an “easy target”. Sad how people have nothing else to do but to bully others.
Posted by: Malaysha | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 12:50 pm
@concerned educator. Life for most is not seeking oppurtunties to absorb violence to enlighten others. This young woman wanted to change her apperance, her mother supported, a qualified surgeon accomadated. She should not be judged or criticized because of your idealogical quest. it is the bullies who are flawed and their flaws inflict pain on innocents. the bullies have already received the wrong message, that is the issue. For you to hold her respondsible to change their ways in insensitive at best, foolish at worst.
Posted by: Reyrip | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 1:02 pm
what will they make fun of next? her clothes? her makeup? her hair? her shoe size? should she change all of those things to make people happy? She was so beautiful before the surgery. I can’t believe this nonsense.
Posted by: thoughtful one | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 6:53 pm
How was this child deformed? what the hell she looked perfectly fine. Everyone has a little quirk about themselves. I think she looked like a cute kid. What horrible little monsters are there that picked on her should be getting surgery, preferrably to remove their tongues, and thier parents should have their breeding rights taken away. Why in our society do we encourage the victim to change when they have done nothing wrong? do we honestly believe that they will stop bullyign her after the plastic surgery? they foudn their mark and they will continue to be jsut as cruel. Bullies don’t need a reason. are we such a society of bullies that we side with the bully and think there must be something wrong with the victim?
Posted by: sevey | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 6:56 pm
I had my ears pinned back when I was 11 in 1977. it was the BEST thing my Mom could have done for me. I was bullied before surgery. I also benefited by starting Jr high in a new school district so no one @ the new school even knew about my ears before so it was a completely fresh start…clean slate. I know it helped me be more confident & outgoing post surgery. My Mom was wise beyond her years. Thanks Mom…i wouldn’t be the person I am today…& I like me.
Posted by: Lynnette H | August 9, 2012 August 9, 2012, 11:25 pm
I think she looked better before the after pic looks unnatural. I think kids need to carry recording devices if they are bullied and then record what the other child said. Then the bully needs to sit down with their parents and listen to the recording over and over and explain why they said it then develop a plan to fix the bully. My son has Asperger’s cannot fix that with surgery he get bullied all the time. Fixing the child that gets bullied is not the answer it is the bully that needs fixing.
Posted by: Kelly R | August 10, 2012 August 10, 2012, 10:55 am
I think it’s terrible that being who you are is considered a ‘disability.’ She has no idea what a real disability is! and for her mother to teach her that plastic surgery is the answer is only setting her up to fail in life. her mother did her a true injustice. there are going to be things in life that you can’t change by just going under the knife. It’s horrible she’s being bullied, but her mother should’ve really stepped up by going to the school board and the parents. This story disgusts me.
Posted by: Manda H | August 10, 2012 August 10, 2012, 12:15 pm
I am 35 years old and my ears stick out… like WAY out. they always have. I dealt with the embarrassment and humiliation of being made fun of all throughout school and even now in my adulthood I still get it now and again. I have always wanted to have them pinned back but because I have a rare bleeding disorder the risk of bleeding out is too high for an elective surgery. What most people are misunderstanding in this girl’s story is that wanting the surgery wasn’t just to silence the verbal abuse from her bullies at school, it was also to silence her own “inner bully” that spoke to her every time she looked into the mirror… that little voice inside her head that made her feel insecure about her looks. I KNOW how terrible it is to want so desperately to throw your hair into a ponytail and head out the door but instead opt to wear it down so not to feel like every eye is on you. even now I won’t wear a ponytail because I KNOW that everyone WILL notice them (how could they not). I can’t bear knowing that everyone I pass will think to themselves, “wow those are some big ears. Poor girl”. Obviously, we are not all made the same on the outside so it stands to reason we aren’t all made the same on the inside either so while some of you may be strong-willed and hard-headed enough to push through and get over all your flaws, some of us just don’t find it that easy & that is why plastic surgery exists. its not the right answer for everyone but for some its the right one.
Posted by: SunniD | August 10, 2012 August 10, 2012, 2:10 pm
I have protruding ears also, and was bullied all my life because of it. I was called Dumbo even from my siblings. I never had a boyfriend in school because of it or many friends. I have never worn my hair behind my ears, and never have had it “up”. When i saw this on teleivision i just broke in tears because i know what she has gone thru. My heart goes out to her and congratulations to her for getting the surgery. one day if i can ever afford it i will have it. I am 52 years old now and I still do not wear my hair up or behind my ears. God Bless the Doctors that helped her and did the surgery for her.
Posted by: Teresa Madsen | August 11, 2012 August 11, 2012, 2:07 pm
I’m glad she’s happy with her choice and the outcome. I’m happy there are doctors willing to help. however I’m in camp “She looked fine before”. I opened the page and said to myself, “what a cute kid” re the “before” pic. (also, I beg to differ with the mother re braces. Straight teeth give you a chance at healthy gums for life. Bad bite, crowding, etc, makes a variety of health issues more problematic – you know, breathing, stuff like that.)
Unless no one mentioned it, this girls’ changes seem only cosmetic.
If someone has resources to spare, toss them at programs that improve Communication. For less than 40k, bring a behaviorist into the school to work with all students on an awareness and improvement plan.
People are not born with communication skills and self-esteem, we require nurturing and instruction in how to deal with your place in the world or we suffer the consequences in our broken and hurt inner selves.
Communications seems to be a theme beyond bullying in this girls’ situation. there are limited helpful resources for parents of children with disabilities (and I mean the son with CP). Also, I’ve noted that teachers do not make it a priority to have robust supportive communication with children because of the priorities and limitation of our public education system. Admins and teachers cannot make bonding with the students a top priority because as budgets are more and more squeezed, school staff is asked to pick up the slack to help the school survive. it would be great if there were behaviorists available in every school district, but it’s expensive in dollars. Compared to the “price” of the loss of bullies to suicide, depression, or substance abuse, I think it would be worth it.
Posted by: Jeanette | August 11, 2012 August 11, 2012, 9:05 pm
What a terrible waste of money on vanity. That charity should have gone to someone who had a legitimate health related need. the girl should have been giving a shrink instead. even though she “feels more confident”; it’s all superficial. instead of being given coping skills that would help her her entire life, as well as making her a much more natural functioning human being. now all she learned is that by changing yourself and conforming to fit in is a healthy and viable way to live.I’m sure everyone has been bullied or poorly treated at some point in their life and of that number it is safe to assume the great majority simply learned to deal with it (with or without help either is fair). What will she cry for next when the girls and boys start making fun of her for being flat chested, or maybe her butt isn’t the right shape? Is she just going to get surgery to correct that instead of using the coping skills she didn’t bother to learn this time around? bottom line: a frivolous and ultimately more harmful than helpful waste of money on vanity. As they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions and it has never rung truer here.
Posted by: TeddyKGB | August 12, 2012 August 12, 2012, 6:58 am
I find it amazing that most responders have focused on this young girl’s ears. Did no one notice that she had corrective surgery on her nose and chin? Correcting defects in the (probable) deviation(s) of the nasal septum is hardly cosmetic. had a profile photo been included, a (probable) mandibular misalignment would also be more noticeable, and surgical intervention would not be purely cosmetic, also.
Kudos to Dr. Romo. best wishes to Nadia. I hope you perservere through school and become successful as an adult so that you can pay this forward for another young person.
Posted by: Kim Roberts | August 12, 2012 August 12, 2012, 11:42 am
Kim R: Point taken, perhaps there was a medical issue with the chin or nose, however it seems the reason people are focusing on the ears is because the article focuses on them? (And the girl may have as well or it might just be the way the article was put together.) the point being, that the focus on the ears and wanting to kill herself over being made fun of makes her seem vain and overly superficial. now you might have a point, but it seems (according the article) she didn’t give a damn about the medical implications of her possible deformities and only cared about the social implications. it is still a grave disservice not to treat the emotional trauma through a mental health professional that could help her develop coping skills as well as maybe a better opinion of herself not so reliant on externalities. Any healthcare professional would be remiss ethically, professionally as well as in conscience to not provide more help than slapping a band-aid fix like this “doctor” has done.
Posted by: TeddyKGB | August 12, 2012 August 12, 2012, 3:43 pm
I read all the comments including the one from “Jeanette”. What idiots to go on and on about improving the bully. Bullies aren’t going away. They’ve been on this earth from the beginning of time and they aren’t leaving. her mom did the right thing. I know. At the age of 3 I was in a car accident that forever changed the way my face would look. Scars? no. Bone damage and deformity? Oh, yes. and all my life I’ve heard about it. From the jerk in the store making remarks about the ‘dog’ walking by, to coworkers, dates, and more. you can talk all you want about developing self confidence and learning to love the real you, but that doesn’t soothe hurt feelings. Confidence can only take just so much beating. My mother believed it was better to teach me to love myself. Crap. I love me just fine. Doesn’t make me feel any better about the way I look. I’m 53 now and as I age the problem, visually, is worse and worse. I totally support this girl and her mom. the reality is that part of our self esteem is based on the way others perceive us. That’s a fact. Here’s another. What you consider a disability may not be a disability to the one who has it. What you think is not a disability, really may be. I have a High Functioning Autistic teenager who does not consider this to be a disability. She’s sick of people who think it is. On the other hand, she looked at this and felt this girl had a physical deformity that can – and should – be fixed. If a child has a problem that makes them unhappy and it can be fixed, do it. Life’s too short to get caught up in stupid attitudes. and Jeanette – Vanity? You’re a woman. Vanity is – and should – be our middle name. Otherwise, we just all turn into old hags. She’s young. Vanity is cool. I hate to see what you look like if you’re a woman and you don’t have a little vanity. It’s okay to drive the newest and best car, have the fanciest house, eat at the nicest restaurants, take the most exclusive trips, but heaven forbid we should have any vanity. Bull hockey.
This girl is beautiful and she’s happy. way to go Mom. Hooray for the doctor who did the work.
Posted by: CD | August 14, 2012 August 14, 2012, 12:59 am
This article makes me sick. Basically, I am this girl. I have huge ears, I was called Dumbo in school, I had the song “I believe I can fly” dedicated to me by my classmates multiple times and I’m surviving. Half of the parents out there are not teaching their kids the implications of bullying and the other half aren’t teaching their kids the self-confidence and strength needed to stand up to their bullies. instead, we’re teaching our kids that if you don’t like something about your life, your face, etc….you can buy your way to a solution. or, go to someone with a sob story and hopefully you’ll get something for free. That doctor is a disgrace. This girl was not deformed, she had more noticeable features than some other kids but I cannot believe how selfish people can be. her sibling has Cerebal Palsy….if anyone knows anything about that disease, you can be handicapped, deformed, etc as a result, I’m sure that her issues were nothing compared to her sibling so the fact that this happened is appauling. I can understand surgery such as this for victims of accidents or who arew born with deformities but for a 14 year old girl who was being bullied it is absolute bull. I think this proves how vain and lazy the world is.
Posted by: kakaencha | August 14, 2012 August 14, 2012, 1:13 pm
Posted by: Peggy | August 14, 2012 August 14, 2012, 3:37 pm
There was nothing wrong with her nose and chin – they fell perfectly into the realm of normal. her ears were what go the attention and teasing. I can understand the ear tuck, but there is no reason this beautiful girl needed to have work on other parts of her face.
Posted by: pfk | August 14, 2012 August 14, 2012, 6:32 pm
Any boy or girl with ears like she had would have wanted surgery to correct the ears – they were bad. and she only asked for the ear job – it was the doctor who added the nose and chin. there is health reasons behind the nose – breathing had to been affected, as you will note how crooked her nose was between the eyes; and I’ll bet the chin surgery will help in future denistry needs – or lack of them.
I definitely side with the ones who have/had similar ear problems. they know that when your ears stick out so far that it limits your hairstyle so basically – and a boy/man can’t barely put a hat over his head without the ears sticking out and lifting the hat…this is major. It’s not a slightly messed up nose or a willowry body where small breasts go with it, and a boob-job would throw the body off. This gal won’t request anything – she got the ear job she really needed. I wish the others who commented who need a similar operation could get it.
Posted by: Virginia Gilley | August 16, 2012 August 16, 2012, 5:23 pm
Wonderful for this girl to have this done. People, especially kids, can be so cruel. Also, wonder if the mother might be covering up large ears under her hair? If so, how has she dealt with it? just a thought…
Posted by: Jolie | August 17, 2012 August 17, 2012, 8:59 pm
I had a child who suffered bullying in school to a ridiculous level. I was born to parents who taught me to appreciate all that I am, but that can only take you so far. If you are constantly being teased about a physical feature that can be corrected and you are able to have that correction done then bully for you. It’s a shame that some of you have no compassion and are unable to identify with this girl. I’m happy for her and I pray for continued success and a life of fulfilling dreams for Nadia.
Posted by: Evelyn | August 18, 2012 August 18, 2012, 11:00 pm
Posted by: Evelyn | August 18, 2012 August 18, 2012, 11:01 pm
For those of you who compare her to her brother, stating “imagine what he’ll have to go through”…it depends. I have CP, but it’s not as apparent as this little guys. I was picked on horrendously, primarily due to my looking “normal” but with a slightly funny walk. the kids at my school who had an obvious disability were generally left alone, except for a few ignorant arseholes. it really depends. he may be just fine, and maybe not, it’s not a given.
Posted by: Laurie | August 19, 2012 August 19, 2012, 1:01 pm
Ack, she looks worse than before. Come on guys, you can’t go changing yourself, it won’t make them stop making fun of you. just a case of ugly duckling, she WOULD have grown up beautiful if she didn’t do that to herself.
Posted by: c | August 20, 2012 August 20, 2012, 1:15 pm
People call me dumbo because i got big ears and a big nose…. but i look at it this way…. God’s creations are all beautiful…. nothing he creates in this world is ugly…. i used to get bullied all the time wen i was younger but now as i grow older it has reduced although people still spit out rude remarks…. I laugh it off and always remember that no one matters in this world but the love of GOD…. God always will deal with those who hurt others…. all you need to do is pray for peace in your heart and everything in the world will look beautiful to you… but congratulations
Posted by: Maria | August 21, 2012 August 21, 2012, 6:57 am
Has your child become the victim of bullying because he or she doesn’t look normal? we all know bullying can devastate an impressionable child. but have you ever thought that plastic surgery may end the bullying?
Let’s suppose your child was born with ears that stick out a little too far. or, their nose may appear out of proportion. These are just two examples of situations where bullying could result.
Children can be cruel and the psychological damage can be hard to overcome. it can literally follow them throughout their entire life. a child can be affected academically as well as suffer depression.
Statistically, girls as young as 14 have turned to cosmetic enhancement as a means to escape bullying at school. this hurtful taunting can make a parent feel as if there is no alternative.
Most board-certified surgeons will not operate on children under 18. but it’s possible to have a procedure done with their parents’ permission.
It’s a sad scenario when the victims of bullying feel it’s necessary to change something about themselves when it’s really the other way around. the teasers should be the ones who change. Education is the key to change. but until every bully is educated, victims of bullying will most likely continue to turn to plastic surgery.
Cosmetic surgery is often the last resort taken by parents of bullied children after everything else has failed. a simple procedure like pinning a child’s ears back, known as otoplasty, can transform a child’s life.
The surgical procedures shouldn’t be done to please or satisfy the bullies. Remember, they are the ones with the real problem – not your child. Schools and parents have the greatest responsibility to educate, change the pattern and the effects of bullying.
Bullying can wreak such dramatic effects on a young psyche that it can almost totally transform a personality from outgoing to introvert. a child can become withdrawn and antisocial. but many opponents to cosmetic surgery as an answer to bullying say it’s the self-esteem of a person which needs to be exercised, not the cutting knife.
How else will young people learn to value themselves and grow in self-confidence, no matter what they look like, if a simple procedure erases their insecurities? many others would agree we all grow up with some sort of insecurity about the way we look.
The most important point is that if you want to enhance your child’s appearance with plastic surgery do so only after you have consulted with a reputable surgeon. it also might be a good idea to have your child counseled psychologically.
Life is difficult enough without a physical deformation added to the plate. but we don’t want to teach our children the only answer is a surgical one.
The media and celebrities already have young people, especially girls, looking at themselves in a different way. Plastic surgery may not be the ideal answer, but it may be the lesser of two evils.
Many people do not think of children when they think about plastic surgery, but there are kids who get some type of surgical procedure to change their looks. In some cases, it is warranted, but in other cases, parents are criticized for their decision. get an idea of some of the most common reasons parents might let their children get surgical treatment to change their appearance.
Some kids are born with defects that can be distracting or even humiliating. For example, they might not have fully formed ears, or maybe only one looks normal. There are a number of issues that might affect kids at a young age, and since they do not get any better with time, it may make sense to fix them early on. this can prevent some of the bullying and low self-esteem problems that people with appearance irregularities may experience. For this reason, some doctors are willing to perform plastic surgery on young patients.
Some patients are not born with appearance-related problems, but a traumatic accident causes them. For instance, a serious dog bite can change the face, leaving the child looking nothing like before. a car accident can have the same effect. In these instances, the at-fault party or their insurance provider may even pay for the plastic surgery since it is often considered a necessity. If they just want to look normal again, such children may desire surgical treatment of this kind.
Of course, there are parents who are okay with their children getting treatment simply to change their features so they look better. Most people frown on this, and few doctors would do it. However, some parents find a way around the typical rules. Their kids may end up getting treatment that makes their face more symmetrical, reduces the size of their nose, or even gets rid of excess fat. Though this practice is rare, the most likely people to do it are those whose career and reputation hinge on physical beauty. Therefore, beauty pageant contestants, actors, and models may get plastic surgery at a young age, especially when their parents are fine with it or even pressure them to do it.
It goes without saying that few people think plastic surgery for children is a positive thing. However, sometimes it is necessary, such as after trauma that changes the appearance. If you have any reason to think your child may benefit from surgical treatment to fix the appearance, you should try to find a surgeon with experience treating younger patients.
Since the sands of time started dripping, women have gone the distance to entice and keep their men. Cleopatra and other queens before her of Egypt bathed in milk, while medieval wives wore horribly tight corsets to keep their waist constriction small.
Whatever it may be, women have done and will do anything to ensnare the alpha male. Today, Shifa Mwesigye brings you the latest hair-raising fad that women are indulging in.
There is no easy way of saying it, so I will go ahead and let you in on this: women are adding a little bling in their private parts just as they do with their ears. the feminist in them will argue that they are doing it for their own pleasure and croon, “It is my body!”
But honestly, how often will they assume a curious position in front of a mirror to admire the stud(s) down below? Let’s face it – the thrill is in getting that wow comment from the guy she lets in on the secret.
So once more, women continue to invent ways to make their men happy with the Brazilian wax, labiaplasty and vajazzle (to give the female genitals a sparkly makeover with crystals so as to enhance their appearance).
Others elongate their labias (pulling senga-style), tattoo, wear waist beads, and use herbs to tighten the nether muscles. some cultures like the Sabiny cut off the clitoris as a ‘beauty’ enhancer never mind that female genital mutilation is now against the law.
Do men really care?
As more women dash to vajazzle, the big question remains, do men like the designer fine print? If so, would they put a sticker on their Bentleys too?
“Hell no,” Fred Muwonge, who lives in USA, says.
Muwonge says that it is sexy to the western world but he knows too well that back home any woman who picks up the trend will be branded a prostitute. yet women find themselves with men who demand for all the above enhancements and more.
And more women feel sexy when they alter their natural settings just like American actress Pamela Anderson feels about her boobs or American singer and rapper Nicky Minaj about her well rounded artificial bum.
“Personally some tattoo and piercing earns you (a woman) bonus points. Don’t get me wrong, I hate too much tattoos and piercing. If you are somebody I am having a fling with, I don’t mind it because it’s sexy. but at the same time it’s crazy for my potential wife to have it,” Muwonge says.
Brian Otim is one man who says he can understand why women go through all the trouble: men love a little mystery.
“Well, I love a tattoo when I see one in the right places; kind of like they are giving me a hint. as for pulling, I think a woman is just good the way she was created; pulling makes it seem dead,” Otim says.
“Piercing? Is the woman not confident of her wares so that she has to add metals? my general point is you can do anything with your body that enhances the look but I don’t think it should be a permanent alteration that damages someone’s natural beauty,” Otim says.
And Raymond Mugisha agrees. he says vajazzling is like putting spinners on a Rolls Royce, Bentley or Lamborghini.
“No amount of pimping it can improve it. It’s got its value as it is. Matter of fact, pimping it takes a little something away from it,” Mugisha says.
But open-minded Peter Muwanguzi says that men like variety so changing it a little is good to spice it up.
“Even those who say they don’t like it are at least curious about it. it also depends on what tricks the woman has chosen to pimp herself with. some men find butiiti (waist beads) repulsive bordering on witchcraft. but the majority non-sophisticated lot below Kampala road love it,” Muwanguzi says.
He says vajazzling is for the elite who have internet and keep abreast with the trends.
“My cousins in Kikuubo would frown upon that kind of stuff though the vajazzle could cross the sophistication divide. We are all for labiaplasty the more weird it looks the rummier the stories back with the boys. as a man I like to have character down there, something different, even odd,” he says.
But Gregory Smith disagrees.
“I think it’s stupid and unattractive. A woman who is sexy knows her vagina is a powerful thing on its own, one of the most powerful things on earth. she shouldn’t feel the need to add plastic stuff to it,” he says.
Some women too wouldn’t be caught pimping themselves. Jamel Nampijja says she would never be caught near a plastic surgeon’s knife or a tattooist table, at least not to please men.
“Plastic surgery is ok if one feels they need to fix something down there. I wouldn’t tattoo, tint or pierce mine for a guy to appreciate me. would he put a sticker on his Bentley? no,” Nampijja says.
Below are some of the things women do to spruce up their privies:
Brazilian waxing
A woman shaves her pubes into different shapes like a Mohawk or a landing strip. There is no health problem beside some pain when waxing. Betty Beauty
Forty-year-old Kathleen who has tried the product says it is great. it made her feel 20 years younger. Betty Beauty is especially made as a dye for pubes. the Betty Beauty website states that you can match your hair tint and your pubes. There are no known side effects yet and it hasn’t reached Ugandan shelves. Vajazzle
This is when a woman puts Swarovski crystals on freshly waxed skin on the pubic bone area above the vagina to give the female genitals a sparkly makeover. it was popularised by American actress Jennifer Love-Hewitt who writes in her book that she shines like a disco ball. Clitoral hood piercing
Like most genital piercings, these piercings have relatively short healing times, due to the amount of blood flow to the area. During the healing period however, the piercing is a wound and can increase the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. it is believed that genital piercings provide added sexual stimulation to the genitals.
When the clitoral hood is pierced, a captive bead ring or barbell style jewellery is looped into the clitoris. A woman runs the risk of contracting infections especially when the piercing is not yet healed. in Kampala, it is done privately and costs some Shs 300,000. Labiaplasity
A story carried by BBC says that more and more women are seeking “designer vaginas” and hence go for plastic surgery to alter the look down under. If it’s too small, a woman can opt for it to be increased in size and if she feels her vagina is big, she has it reduced.
The BBC websites states that last year alone more than 2,000 labiaplasties were carried out, and in the last five years there has been a fivefold increase. the surgery costs upwards of £ 3,000. Tattoo
These can be done at Shs 100,000 or more in Kampala. Women like to tattoo a little butterfly above their groin area to make it visible when they wear low cut jeans. some prefer tramp stamps on the back just above the bum and just like the name, they are for tramps.
Pulling the labia minora
This is as old as our ancestors in Uganda. Women elongate the labia minora to increase the larger surface area of their lady parts. Sengas (paternal aunties) encourage young girls to pull before they hit puberty in preparation for marriage because it is believed men enjoy feeling them. Tightening herbs
Women apply herbs and jell to tighten and lubricate for better sex. However, doctors say applying substances to the vagina tampers with its normal PH and increases chances of catching UTIs (urinary tract infection). This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. you need JavaScript enabled to view it
A fourteen-year-old girl from Georgia was bullied so severely about her ears, that she begged her mother for surgery to have them pinned back. not able to afford the surgery, her mother looked into a charity that paid to have plastic surgery done on children with severe facial deformities. not only did they provide ear pinning for the young girl, they also shaved her jaw line and gave her a partial nose job. Click here to see the before and after pics.
Should she have gotten the additional surgeries when she only wanted her ears pinned? Do you think this will be effective to ward off bullies?
The Little Baby Face Foundation (LBFF) “transforms the lives of children born with facial deformities through corrective surgery.” from repair of major facial deformities such as cleft palates to the pinning back of ears, this non-profit claims to transform the lives and faces of children.
Check out the recent transformation the organization recently provided for 14-year-old Nadia Ilse.
Nadia was a victim of bullying. Her peers made fun of her “dumbo” ears. Excited that she was chosen, Nadia head to new York for her life changing transformation. the $40,000 cost of surgery and travel was all included in the charitable expense.
Here is where my concern rises. Not only did Nadia have her ears pinned back, the plastic surgeon also suggested and performed a nose job and chin restructuring surgery on her. Looking at this young lady I did not find anything outstanding in regards to the appearance of her nose or chin. It just seems a little extreme.
Check out the video of Nadia’s journey below and pay close attention around the 2:30 mark when the doctor is explaining the procedures to Nadia.
Most importantly, Nadia is a beautiful young lady who I hope matures to a young woman who has confidence and a sense of self worth.
A cleft lip is a condition that is present at birth in which the lip is not completely fused together. There degrees of the birth defect including unilateral complete, unilateral incomplete and bilateral complete, and the most common side effect associated with the condition is nutritional concern. a child is likely to have trouble sucking or latching on, and this is the deciding factor in the timing of the plastic surgery, though some children with a cleft that only affects the lip can assimilate and learn to suck.
A cleft palate carries with it more complicated set of inabilities. The hard or soft palate can be affected by this birth defect, and hindrances to these parts of the mouth are associated with many more complex issues. Froe example, the proximity of the cleft to the ears can cause draining issues. Children who experience this should be closely monitored by an ear nose and throat specialist (ENT) to gage the seriousness of the complications. Chronic ear infections and drainage and nasal issues that left untreated, can cause partial or total hearing loss are often associated with the congenital defect.
Usually a patient with the condition will be closely watched by a team of medical professionals to include the aforementioned ENT, a pediatrician, a nutritionist, a speech pathologist, and a plastic surgeon with the pediatrician being the reoffering doctor and/or primary care physician. Difficulties with the ears can cause issues with hearing and therefore speech, and these coupled with the palate’s role in linguistics most certainly entails a major need for speech and language therapy. even if the condition is corrected in infancy, a scarred lip can cause articulation problems while lack of hearing, even if it is sporadic, hinders acquisition. The two disabilities together cause a major delay in communication ability.
Of course hearing, communicating, are three categories of human need that cannot be left to chance, which is why plastic surgery to correct the conditions of a cleft lip and/or a cleft palate should be done as early in infancy as the medical community will allow. There is a false assumption among society that parents of children with the condition often seek to have it corrected solely for aesthetic reasons and coping reasons, but the truth is that surgery is necessary early in life for a child to prosper, and in cases where consumption of nutrition is at stake, the surgery is absolutely imperative for sustenance of life.
It is estimated that one in seven hundred births results in a baby with a cleft lip or palate, and the visual effects of the concern actually work in a child’s favor. it is because of the immediately noticeable characteristics that the condition and debilitating effects can be caught and treated early.
