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Though it plays a rather important role, keyword research is usually only done once at the beginning of your online marketing work. When you do this you will know firsthand what potential patients are searching for within your category and the services that you offer. you want to live in this space, you want to be the business that pops up when a potential customer is looking for a cosmetic clinic. that is why it is so very important. Getting into the mindset of your potential customers is after all what it’s all about because that all equals business.
So the fact that keyword research has to only be done once is great. this means that it’s an effort you don’t have to take on often, but that it is also very crucial. therefore you need to be sure that you take your time and get the research results you really want and need for your cosmetic clinic. taking your time and utilizing expert capabilities can ensure you great success in your online activities. So to be sure that you get the most out of your online research, you want to think through some important fundamental questions. These questions include:
How Will People Search for you? How are people likely to look for a business such as yours? What types of words and phrases would potential patients use when they scour the Internet for a cosmetic clinic? Will they utilize geographic terminology? Will they look for a specific type of position or something else? this is a big question that you want to be sure you answer properly.
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You need to be sure that you utilize a keyword research tool. There are many out there, but Google AdWords is one that many businesses use to get started because it’s simple and it’s free. that means that the tool does the work for you, but you have to put in the initial words that can be worked against. the more precise you can be and the more in touch you are with your client and their mindset, the more effective this tool will be for you.
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Keywords are a crucial part of online marketing because they are used constantly. They will translate into the mindset of potential patients and that is what you will trace to get to them and to get them to you and to utilize the services of your cosmetic surgery practice.
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It was once said that having low self-esteem is like driving through life with a handbrake on. I like this metaphor because it illustrates just how hard it is to live your best life when you don’t feel worthy to live in that space. for years I have read about self-esteem and how it affects the way that we live. Struggling in my teenage years with low self-esteem, I came to see firsthand what the world looks like when you feel very negatively about yourself. Doing my own inner work over a number of years I also came to see how differently the world appears when you change the thoughts that you have about who you are and what your experiences in life represent.
Self-esteem can be defined as the way that you feel about yourself. It is whether you feel happy or sad, peaceful or unsettled, courageous or fearful, when you look in the mirror. How we feel about ourselves will determine much about what we feel towards the world. Feeling distain for ourselves and we will feel distain for the world and the people who inhabit it. Feeling loving and accepting of ourselves and the world will be a place in which we can practice love and acceptance. Indeed, the outer world is a reflection of our inner world, and for the most part the emotions that we experience in it are the same emotions that are tied up in our own self-concept.
Thoughts produce feelings which in turn produce actions. Understanding this relationship between our psychology and physiology we learn much about self-esteem and the way that it influences our behaviour. Whether we have high or low self-esteem is primarily determined by the things that we say to ourselves. If we say to ourselves that we are worthless, no good and undeserving of the best things in life, we will feel terrible about ourselves and act in a way that communicates to the world that we do not like who we are. we will probably abuse ourselves in some way whether it is through unhealthy eating, consuming drugs or excessive amounts of alcohol, or abuse others, mistreating them in the same way that we mistreat ourselves. This is what it means to have low self-esteem. It is to see ourselves as ugly, diminished and therefore incapable of being the person that we aspire to be.
If our self-talk is positive, reflecting an optimistic attitude, we will feel great about ourselves and the world in which we live. This will lead us to live passionately with great enthusiasm. Feeling our joy and receiving the good works that our inspired effort produces, the universe will bring to us people and opportunities that allow us to experience more of what we already are. People who live like this have high self-esteem. they feel good about who they are and their world reflects this.
Being what they have created from the inside out, it is no accident that their feelings of inner success produce external success in the different forms that material prosperity takes. This however is not to imply that all those who have amassed great worldly fortunes produced them with high self-esteem because many of them did not. The difference lies in the integrity that was practiced as the service was being rendered and the rewards were being received. Leaders like Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Warren Buffet and Bill Gates share what they have created with many other people. With who they are being such a large part of what they have created, the high quality and value of what they have produced and contributed to mirrors in a very tangible way their own self-concept, and their belief of what they are capable of.
Someone with low self-esteem and a limited self-concept will not have what it takes to accomplish great things. Only once they increase their self-esteem and develop a powerful self-concept will they be able to do what they previously thought impossible. Believing in themselves they will be able to envision bigger and better things. Acting on that belief they will be able to create with their hands what they envision with their mind. This is how self-esteem facilitates success in worldly terms. what your mind can conceive and believe, you can achieve, but if you don’t believe in yourself you will not go to work in creating a future that is better than what you are living in the present.
It is very sad for me to see people who have clearly given up on themselves. Shuffling as they walk with their heads down, they appear to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. Ostracizing themselves from other people, they are reluctant to admit that they are stuck, but in so many ways they give themselves away, from the way that they hold themselves and speak about their experience of life to the way that they treat others.
To value yourself you must first know yourself. what I mean by this is being acquainted with the psychological and spiritual aspects of your being. Who we are physically in this world is only the most visible part of who we are but there are whole other parts that so many people have yet to explore. being that inner realm which holds the secrets of who we are at a deeper level, it is these psychological and spiritual facets of being that we must give more conscious attention to if we are to understand who we are.
It is very hard to love something that you don’t understand. Applying this to the relationship that we have with ourselves, it is imperative that we grow to understand ourselves more clearly so that we can love ourselves without judgment. not judging the truth of who we are, it will appear more visibly in the world to guide our growth.
One of the things that I have observed about low self-esteem is that it leads us with our self-talk to beat ourselves up with messages that are not necessarily true. Perhaps we paint a picture and everyone that we show the picture to says that it is a fabulous piece of art. despite the positive feedback that we have received, the wounded mind will not focus on that but on the limiting beliefs that we have as an artist. Perhaps we will say that the painting was terrible or that it was luck that produced the piece. Talking this way, we will articulate our perceived shortcomings even though they do not stand up against the contrary evidence that appears before us.
Have you ever been around a person who is so self denigrating that they appear to live on a different planet? With the images that they hold and the words that they communicate with the mind not matching the physical reality of their life, what we see with our objective eyes is often what they struggle to see with eyes that have been blinded by a limited self-concept. so often we cannot see anything other than what our map presents to us even when it is totally inconsistent with the territory that is independent of the mind. in this disparity between truth and falsehood we suffer in life, lost in our dark and depleted mind that is incapable of shining a light on who we really are.
Very recently, I read Dr Maxwell Maltz’s classic Psychocybernetics in which he talks in some detail about this concept of the map not matching the territory. A plastic surgeon by trade, Dr Maltz would consult with patients who said that they wanted to look more attractive and feel more beautiful. Working through the enhancements to be made with Maltz, these patients would emerge from surgery as dissatisfied with their appearance as they were when they first came to see him. despite his great work in making these people look more physically appealing to the opposite sex, many of these patients would burst into tears of sadness when their bandages were removed. Revealing something that they perceived to be ugly and displeasing, it took Dr Maltz some time to figure out why they were reacting in this way.
What he realized as he observed this phenomenon was that his patients’ self-concept was so damaged that not even a radical physical transformation could change the negative beliefs that they had of themselves. not feeling beautiful on the inside, they could not recognize their beauty on the outside, even when their looks were tailored to suit what society expected beauty to be. having very low self-esteem and a poor self-concept, the work that Dr Maltz performed did not change their opinions of themselves because it dealt not with the core issue of their angst and dissatisfaction which was internally located.
As human beings we are susceptible to trying to build ourselves up from the outside in but this never works. to realize positive and lasting change we need to start on the inside and work from there. while this may take more time and energy than the ‘quick fix’ to be found outside of ourselves, the work is inevitably worth it because when we build ourselves up in this way, the improvements that we make will be permanent, both in terms of our character and our self-concept.
The problem with relying on the things of the physical world to bolster our self-esteem is that they are fleeting, leaving us worse off in their parting than we would have been had we made the initial decision to strengthen our psychological and spiritual foundations. Part of the reason why Dr Maltz’s patients reacted so badly to the surgery was because despite the enhancements they did not experience a change in the way that they felt towards themselves. The other part of it was the lengths that they went to in order to feel better about themselves and realizing that the path that they chose didn’t work.
What these people did with plastic surgery, other people do with big houses, flashy cars, clothes and accessories, titles in the workplace, namedropping and the overconsumption of drugs and alcohol. Using these things to build self-esteem, they never do the job because they are an artificial means to a natural end. for sure, in the short term we may be able to fool ourselves and other people into believing that these things give us strength, but over the long term the lie will reveal itself and we will come to learn that true strength is what we possess internally, independent of the things that we identify with and hide behind.
When I say natural end what I mean is the process of development that nature facilitates with no effort on our part. Staying true to our nature and being willing to heal ourselves and change, we create the space in which we can grow more fully into the people that we were created to be. Moving in the direction of self actualization our self-esteem grows commensurately to our advancement in consciousness. Taught of the truth about who we are, our true value and magnificence we cannot ignore no matter how hard we may have tried to stay small in the past.
Transformed by the spirit we cannot shrink back to our previous dimensions. This is because we have made lasting change within ourselves. Building our house on the rock, we avoid the pitfalls of building our house on the sand, which shifts as the tides of life come and go. Like the opinions of other people, we must not search for self-esteem in those who we come into contact with. Capable only of filling our own tanks of wellbeing and confidence, it is self-love and self-belief that we must nurture for ourselves, being inner treasures of spirit that no one else can provide us with.
Sure, others can tell us how much they love and believe in us but until we learn to love and believe in ourselves their kind words will fall on deaf ears. It takes a lot of energy to try to lift up someone who does not love him or herself. Giving them our love and support to improve their situation, we learn sooner or later that until they do their own inner work, the state of their life will not change for the better. I know this is hard to hear for some people who would like to believe that they can change other people with the power of their intention, but the truth is that we can only be responsible for ourselves and doing our own work to become the best people that we can be.
When I say this, I am not saying don’t care for those people in your life who have low self-esteem or a damaged self-concept; far from it. Express your love and your encouragement. Give yourself to them, but know the limit. Don’t be a martyr and don’t make others dependent on you for validation. often what can happen is that people come to lean heavily on us for their self-esteem. Wanting us to continually affirm them, this can cause resentment on our part and addiction on their part.
As a teenager I had a friend who had a very poor body image. so concerned was he with his appearance that he literally used to spend an hour or more a day in front of the mirror looking at his body. With his upper chest area being the central focus of his concern, he used to continually ask me if the resistance work that he had begun at the gym had made his chest bigger. just wanting him to quit going on about his chest I would usually respond with something like, ‘Yeah, I think that it is working. you look like you have bulked up a little bit.’ Thinking that the response would satisfy him, it only drove him further into his narcissism. Returning to the mirror to see whether he could see the change I described, he would sometimes notice some changes and other times he would not.
Had he really grown more muscular? I didn’t know and I really didn’t care. what I didn’t know then but I know now is that I created that monster because I fed his narcissism rather that asserting myself in the situation and telling him that he had an image problem that I didn’t want to be a part of. having my own teenage insecurities and being co-dependent in that friendship I chose the path of least resistance. Had that payoff not been in place I may have acted differently, but hindsight is futile because the past cannot be altered.
Not learning that lesson at the time I have since come to learn it through other relationships. trying to convince a person that they are worthy and loveable when they don’t believe it themselves is like trying to fill a hole-riddled bucket with water. no matter how much water you pour into the bucket it is incapable of holding the water. Only when the holes are plugged and the bucket fortified is it able to serve the purpose for which it was created.
In another essay I talk about boundaries and the holes that we have in our psyche when we don’t know who we are. having these holes, it is hard to build self-esteem because it drains away like the water from the hole-riddled bucket. Only once we do the work to fill the holes can we build our self-esteem and keep it for ourselves. This is the essence of true power, not searching for it in the outside world in the hope of feeling better.
Why none of our words of love and encouragement get through to the person who struggles with self-esteem is because they flow out through the holes in their boundary. Like the words of encouragement that I gave to my friend, they were not what he could assimilate and give meaning to because of the holes in his bucket. Leaving his mind as soon as they arrived, they were not what he could retain because he understood not who he was in spiritual and psychological terms.
Are the things that we tell ourselves really true? does the world really work in the way that we say it does? Do the people that we interact with really think about us in the way that we think they do? Are the circumstances of our life really as bad as we allow our thoughts to say they are? When dealing with self-esteem issues these are very poignant questions to ask. Revealing much about the content of our maps, their answers can provide much in the way of insight and clarity.
All of the negative messages that drive down our self-esteem may seem true when they are related back to a particular person or experience, but do they stand up against other times in our life that prove the opposite in a very tangible way? often, painful experiences that are given the light of day produce different associations. what I am talking about here is a larger perspective that allows us to see a seemingly negative event from a more positive place.
Looking at our experiences from different angles we can learn different things. think of a hologram. Looking at it from one place you see only a portion of the whole image. Looking at it from a different position and another aspect of the image that you were previously ignorant to reveals itself. why this is relevant to self-esteem is because often we don’t challenge our associations in light of our growth. Experiencing something that we have labelled as negative in the past, we deny ourselves the opportunity to look at that event with the learning that we have since gained.
If self-esteem is primarily driven by the thoughts that we have of ourselves, it would make sense to continually be testing these thoughts against a reality that is not stagnant but forever moving as we grow and mature in the world. Are you really as ugly as you told yourself you were at the age of 11? Isn’t it true that your body has changed in many ways since that time, and that others have noticed that about you? Isn’t it the case that at least once you have had the experience of someone being attracted to you or telling you that you are beautiful?
If you were to continue to embrace that outdated belief you would be living a lie which would play its part in sabotaging your self-esteem and robbing you of happiness. unfortunately so many people live lives that are dominated by thoughts that are not even true. Thinking that they are the negative thoughts that run through their head they miss the opportunity to connect with a deeper truth within themselves that is always communicating more authentic messages to them.
Who you are is not who your mind says you are but who your heart says you are. being a vehicle for the spirit, it is the image that it holds that we should abide by. Complimenting us with words of love, power and prosperity, these are what we must attune our minds to so that we can begin to see ourselves as complete and capable. Each of us were born to be heroes but before we can live this way we must see ourselves as worthy, beautiful and brilliant.
As evolving beings we do not have to live down to our perceived limitations. having low self-esteem is a barrier that none of us need continue to let dominate our lives. Keeping us small, weak and timid it is what prevents us from claiming our greatness. Work every day to discover more about the truth of who you are. being so much more than you believe yourself to be, your self-esteem will grow as you do in the light of psychological understanding and spiritual wisdom.
Peeling back the layers of falsehood in your own life, you strengthen your ability to release the brake. what you shine light on can be transformed. make the choice to make yourself more powerful. Believe implicitly in yourself, act with boldness, and your greatness cannot help but reveal itself.
The time has come. We’re going to talk about one of the most amazing, fantastic, talented and haunted people to live in the last one hundred years.
The King of Pop died my senior year of college. it was one of the best weeks of my life. Now, don’t get me wrong. I was sad to see him leave the world, but we definitely celebrated his life. Me and Casey went out for a week straight because the clubs played nothing but MJ’s music. it was amazing. I’ve never had so many DJs so willing to play “the way you make Me Feel” and “PYT”. it was heaven. we danced to “Thriller” in the parking lot of Pita Pit because they were playing his music THAT loud.
Of course we also busted out some pretty sweet dance moves indoors as well.
Moving on! It’s no secret that MJ had a pretty rough life, even with all that fame and fortune.
Childhood & Family
Michael was born in 1958 as the eighth of ten children in Gary, Indiana. His mother was a devout Jehovah’s Witness and housewife and his father worked in a steel mill. Early on, Jackson’s father assembled the boys into a musical group which toured the Midwest playing various clubs. Michael began his fledgling career playing the tambourine and singing back-up vocals for his older brothers, but eventually moved up to the front and joined his brother Jermaine singing lead vocals.
Slowly but surely, the boys gained popularity and eventually signed with Motown records. No doubt, the boys were talented and excelled in the music industry, but it was at a price. both Joseph and Michael spoke about the physical and verbal abuse inflicted on the Jackson 5 during rehearsals. Joseph would sit in a chair with a belt, ominously waiting for one of his children to falter in their musical training. Michael has been candid about the terror this inflicted on his specifically, speaking about the beatings he earned for failing to meet his father’s demands. Michael also noted that this is the reason he became such a good performer. he knew the consequences if he did not succeed in music.
It has also been speculated that Joseph regularly berated Michael and his other children about their appearances, specifically their noses.
Early Adulthood & Solo Career
Michael continued to perform with his brothers, but it became increasingly obvious that he was a musical prodigy. he had a moderately successful first solo album, but it was his collaboration with Quincy Jones for Off the Wall which completely altered his career forever. Michael picked up several awards, including a few Grammys. he continued to rock the world by releasing (in my opinion) the best album ever, Thriller. I could tell you about how successful it was, but you already know. it completely solidified Michael’s career as a performer. I mean, the MOONWALK. Come on.
It was also around this time that Michael broke his nose while performing and struggled with breathing concerns. it would be the beginning of Michael’s lifelong draw to plastic surgery.
Pepsi & everything After
Michael was at the top of his game making bucketloads of money and being praised for any artistic endeavor he undertook. while still riding the high from his success with Thriller, Michael had his accident filming a Pepsi commercial. he suffered horrendous burns to his face and scalp. Having some experience with plastic surgery because of his history with rhinoplasty, Michael underwent surgery to repair the damage to his body. the Pepsi incident is largely recognized as the beginning of Jackson’s downfall into obsessive plastic surgery and addiction to pain medications.
Even during this time, Michael continued to make amazing music. he released bad and dangerous. two pretty decent albums, but nothing like the incredible success of Thriller. he also went through a fair amount of unrest over his Thriller video because of his status as a Jehovah’s Witness. he took a lot of flack from them and soon began to distance himself from his faith.
Jackson also released his first and only autobiography in 1988 called Moonwalk. it was one of the first times Jackson spoke about the abuse he suffered as a child and directly addressed his plastic surgery and skin discolorations. he attributed these changes to several different things including diet, hair, puberty, and stage lighting.
Neverland
I think Neverland is when we all realized something might actually be amiss with Michael besides him just being a wee eccentric. he built up the California ranch, adding carnival rides, exotic animals, often inviting children to the ranch to visit. There were rumors about the gradual lightening of his skin as a result of vitiligo. People speculated he was bleaching his skin and he was undergoing intensive plastic surgery as he became paler and his face morphed into someone barely recognizable. Jackson also struggled often with period of extreme weightloss as he tried to achieve a “dancer’s body,” and it was suspected he was also facing the probability of being anorexic.
Good things also came out of Neverland, too. Jackson really threw himself into his charity work and began the Heal the World foundation, which is responsible for Jackson’s title as the most charitable artist of all time in the Guinness Book of World Records. he also had his second television interview since 1979 on Oprah when he spoke about his child abuse. he disclosed about his loneliness and tearful childhood as he was alienated from a normal upbringing as a result of being driven to perform incessantly.
Going Downhill
Shortly after the Oprah interview, the first round of child abuse allegations started. while it became apparent the claims against Jackson were false, the artist was humiliated after a police raid of his home where he was strip-searched and had his genitals viewed to vindicate his accuser. it became increasingly obvious Jackson had not done anything wrong, but he still settled out-of-court with the boy’s family for $22 million. Sigh.
Meanwhile, Jackson began his courtship with Lisa Marie Presley. the two eloped in the Dominican Republic and by all accounts from Presley, it was a normal marriage. many people speculated that it was a ploy to show Jackson as a normal guy without all the drama from the child abuse allegations. the two divorced after about two years of marriage and reunited and broke-up several times for about five years until Presley ended the affair.
During his next album, Jackson engaged in another marriage with the mother of his future children, Deborah Rowe. it was a peculiar pairing because the two had been longtime friends with no history of romance, but during the marriage Rowe was six-month pregnant with Jackson’s first child (Prince). Jackson’s mother encouraged the union. the couple divorced in 1999 and Jackson received full-custody of his two children, the second being Paris-Michael Katherine.
Jackson had a third child in 2002 named “Blanket”. he reported the child was the product of a surrogate mother and his own sperm created by artificial insemination. Shortly after, Jackson had his incident where he briefly draped baby Blanket over the railing of his hotel, receiving a ton of criticism in the media. he promptly apologized.
The End
The last five years of Jackson’s life were filled with extreme strife and controversy. Jackson had a film crew follow him around, with the documentary airing in March 2003. the film was pretty unflattering and painted Jackson as a child molester, featuring his regular sleepovers he engaged in with young boys at Neverland. the Santa Barbara county attorney’s office launched a criminal investigation as soon as the film hit the air. Jackson was eventually acquitted on all counts, but it became pretty apparent he was losing touch with reality.
Jackson began to suffer incredible financial hardships and was hounded by debtors about the outstanding amount of money he owed on his Neverland Ranch property. As a result, Jackson nominated to go back on tour and announced his this Is it album and tour. he died three weeks before the starting date of a cardiac arrest.
The Case File
I wish – I WISH – Michael Jackson had been raised in a home where he was allowed the opportunity to be a child. while I can’t say what his contributions to the world of music would have been, I have faith his musical genius would have thrived regardless. while I love the Moonwalk, if it meant Michael getting a couple extra hours to play outside and being a little more of a sloppy dancer, I would have taken it. he didn’t have a childhood and the youth he had was terrifying. he was terrorized by his father, the man who was solely responsible for his development as an artist.
Imagine how conflicted he probably felt about his talents and achievements. these things weren’t earned by joyous practice and dedication, but instead by a father’s selfish drive to live vicariously through his children and find success he never achieved in his own career as a musician. I imagine Michael probably felt a lot of emotions about music and his role as a performer. I think about Michael getting beat for failing to perform a move to Joseph Jackson’s satisfaction. Then, I think about Michael finally accomplishing the move, but remembering the pain he felt for the rest of his life every time he endeavored to do that move/note/whatever.
On top of that, it’s incredibly common for children deprived of their adolescence and childhood to be arrested in their development. in addiction, we say “you stop growing when you start using,” which is entirely true. I have several men I work with who are in their 50s and you wouldn’t know their behavior from a 15 years old’s. Michael is the same. I am unsure when his addiction to sleep medications and body modification flourished, but he stopped growing. it was probably a matter of resiliency, childhood trauma, and substance abuse all swirling into a perfect storm. Even the strongest minded people can only take so much. At some point, Michael stopped trying to conquer his demons and he succumbed to them.
As far as the allegations of child abuse, I can’t say for certain one way or the other. Knowing Michael’s childlike behavior and his aversion to sexual contact with women, I’d venture to say he probably wasn’t sexually active with these children. he most likely wanted friendships with people he saw to be at his maturity level. he never had the opportunity to choose his own friends as a child and found an outlet in charity work with young children. Don’t get me wrong, his behavior was entirely peculiar and alarming, but also considering the heavy amounts of depressants he was on for sleep and other ailments, I doubt he could do anything with the boys if he wanted to, but again, I am no expert in that field. I can only guess.
Regardless, the man was an impressive study in duality. he was a fractured human being. I picture these opposing images of him – confident, stylish, singing about being bad and Billie Jean, and just being totally awesome and cool. Then I picture this scared, lost, lonely guy alone in his wide mansion, looking to hold an adult’s hand and be given a nightlight. he was both of those people. in my own spirituality, I am content he is no longer with us. I imagine him somewhere, sitting in front of a TV on a Saturday morning, watching cartoons, eating pancakes, being told he is perfect just the way he is and if he wants to do something with his musical talent one day, then he can do so, but no one will make him. he gets to decide for himself.
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I have been getting a lot of requests for the recipe of my ‘lower-carb’ ribs. they really are easy to make, and if you want to make them into something that is not a sugar laden food that makes you fat, all it takes is your brain and a little creativity.
A lot of low-carb recipes that I use now with some frequency, like ribs, were developed that way–asking myself how can I cut or significantly minimize the effect of a high carbohydrate/sugar load without sacrificing taste. it takes a little trial and error sometimes, but thankfully we live in s time were PBS cooking shows abound, and there are literally hundreds of shows that will inspire you and give you ideas on what to do (and yes, sometimes also what NOT) to do.
Ribs and rub. Which rub? a no carb big bottle of spices you can get at a place like Costco. There is also am awesome spice shop in Evanston, IL near my home, called The Spice Shop (duh!) and they mix a bag for you with things you like, say if you want a touch of clove or nutmeg, or something non- traditional like that. Liberal rub the night before. keep in tin foil in the fridge. And of course, make sure you get a good night’s sleep…
175-200 degrees for about 6 hours. The hard part is finding something to do during that time…
Finish on the grill…sauce you say? This is where people get screwy and mess up perfectly good ribs by slathering corn syrup all over them. Yuck! Yuck! Yuck!
Here is the trick(s) if you are going to use barbecue sauce:
A. Read the labels, and pick the lowest carb sauce you can find. these are usually the specialty brands. The one I use is called Stubb’s. I also use the Weber brand which is also lower carb.
B. Avoid high fructose corn syrup. It’s in a lot of sauces, and those sauces tend to have a lot of carbs too. funny as it may seems, real sugar and molasses products have less carbs than the HFCS ones.
C. Measure it out. 2 tablespoons is a lot, and if it’s not, then cut it with water or some tomato juice. You are getting a lot flavor from the rub, and if you do the rub right, you will get it to crust, which will give you a texture and taste to your ribs which may make you reconsider BBQ sauce altogether.
D. Don’t stuff the rest of your plate with carbs like cornbread and beans and all the rest. have plenty of fresh coleslaw, salad, some green beans, and a glass of wine (Shiraz & Pinot Noir work well). I know. Beer tastes great with BBQ…okay, then… have one. be smart, though!
Here is your finished product. Eat up!
Your father-in-law will love it!
And so will the rest of the tribe!
Skip dessert! Don’t screw it up, after all that work!
Cohen grew up in San Diego, where he spent many afternoons with his grandmothers, Bluma and Helen, watching old movies, trying on clothes and going through scrapbooks of photos showing people dressed to the nines.
After he finished school, he set his sights on New York City with an eye toward meeting Mimi Weddell, the 93-year-old model, actress and hat enthusiast whom he had admired from afar, after seeing the 2008 documentary film about her life, "Hats off."
He wrangled an invitation to tea. (‘She wouldn’t give me cookies, but she offered me Brandy," he remembers of his first meeting with the late Weddell (pictured above with Cohen), who was a health enthusiast. "Everything she told me about life and style inspired me."
Cohen began to notice other stylish older women on the streets of New York— "a wonderful city for older people to live in," he says. and he asked to take their photographs.
Suprisingly, most were not offended. "I have never been shy to go up to people, but I did have to learn my approach. I tell them I’m photographing women 60 and above, and since most of them are 80 and above, they are flattered," he says. "Many of them were very open to sharing their stories. I met women on the street who would invite me up to their apartments to see their wardrobes. I get voicemails every day from a lot of women," he adds with a laugh.
He started the blog as a response to what he saw as a lack of representation of older people in the media. "Everything I found in my research poked fun," he says. "Which was different from what my eyes were seeing on the street."
The blog has been a boon for Cohen, leading to freelance work for AARP magazine, and exhibitions of his photographs at stores and galleries in Europe. He's currently working on an "Advanced Style" film, which he hopes to complete this summer, and another book, this one more focused on health and lifestyle for the over-60 set.
So at the tender age of 30, how does Cohen feel about his advancing years?
"we all are going to get older. It’s not about me looking forward to it, it’s about me being OK with it," he says. "I’ve learned how to live my life more fully from the women I have met who are 100 and still doing Pilates. I have a new sense of freedom, and have learned to let things go and just accept myself."
The average person may have somewhere between 10 and 40 moles. The most common kind of moles are moles that occur above the surface of the skin, flat moles, and skin tags. Skin moles that lie in the dermis are embedded in the skin and those that on or covered by the epidermis rest on the skin’s outer layer. They’re usually benign and range in size, color, texture, and may occur at any part of the body. although most skin moles are oval and not larger than a pea or raisin. however, some of them may resemble malignant skin lesions since they show a different color with an amorphous shape.
What is melanoma?
Some moles are melanomas which are harmful tumors that are a type of skin cancer. although it’s less common than other kinds of skin cancer, it’s considered the deadliest form. Diagnosis is more prevalent in women that live in warm climates, as excessive exposure to the sun is one of the top causes of melanoma. Fair-skinned people with light-colored hair and eyes are also more at risk. This is such because the skin is less resistant towards the grueling and harsh rays of the sun which may or may not contain ultraviolet light, which further increases the chances of developing melanoma.
What are causes of cancerous moles?
While ultraviolet (UV) light exposure is usually the culprit of the most typical cause of cancerous moles, there’s also other ways to become afflicted with melanoma. Tanning beds are another common cause, as well as extreme exposure to x-rays. Additionally, those who have impaired immune systems from taking various medications at once are more susceptible to fall victim to melanoma. Frequent contact with chemicals in oil, soot, and tar are contributors as well.
How are cancerous moles diagnosed?
Dermatologists are skin specialists that are most likely to detect melanoma. They may run diagnostic tests if they see symptoms, such as darkish blue coloring and irregular shaped moles, on the skin. Most indications are easy to spot with the naked eye, and it’s important to act on clues early to prevent metastasis or the spread of cancer to other organs.
What treatments are available for cancerous moles?
There’s several forms of treatment for cancerous moles that are often performed by nuclear medicine technologists or plastic surgeons. many people choose to undergo cosmetic surgery to have their mole(s) removed. some endure chemo and/or immunotherapy while radiation therapy may work better for others.
Check out my website for more information on cancerous moles.
Some people are absolutely obsessed with boobs, while others can not get enough of luscious, plump derrieres. in some cases, if you have boobs, you naturally lust for a bum. And if you have a fatty, you lust for some twins up top. or maybe you are dying to have thick kissable lips, a button nose, or not so big ears.
Welcome to the never-ending cycle of body envy.
We live in a world where, for the right price, you can fix your not-so-loved body parts and be your mind’s version of perfection.The list of things that you can cosmetically change about yourself are endless, yet deciding whether to go under the knife and become physically enhanced is not a choice that should be made lightly. in a world where you see both body enhancement magic and horrors, it is for sure not a decision that should be made overnight.
During an interview for Lifetime’s The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet, actress Zoe Saldanasaid that she has considered getting a boob job. She mentions that if “an old man was having a midlife crisis and can buy a Porsche and date a 17-year-old, I can buy myself a pair and be the sexiest soccer mom you’ve ever seen.”
Although Saldana is a celebrity, she is not alone. Women, of every status, are constantly in talks of getting work done. But the real question is: are the results worth it? now I’m sure everyone has a body part they wouldn’t mind tweaking or totally demolishing (love handles and saddle bags, anyone?), but when it comes to plastic surgery, there are things to keep in mind. if you come to the conclusion that all the money spent and pain endured will make you a better you than by all means call that doctor.
Once you make the decision to have breast augmentation surgery, one of the most important decisions is selecting your plastic surgeon. Selecting the right cosmetic surgeon will not only increase the chances you will be happy with the results, but it can make you feel less nervous about the procedure and comfortable with the entire process.
Do your research: Selecting a plastic surgeon should involve more than looking in the phonebook. keep in mind you are trusting this person with your health and appearance. take your time and check qualifications, and recommendations.
Ask for referrals: If you know someone who has had breast augmentation, ask who their surgeon was.
Check credentials: this is relatively easy and extremely important. you can check to see if your surgeon is board certified through the American Board of Plastic Surgery. It is also a good idea to check with the medical board in the state you live in to determine if any complaints have been filed against the surgeon.
Don’t let money be the biggest factor: although cost is usually a concern when selecting a plastic surgeon, it should not be the biggest factor. Remember this is your health and cheaper may not always be the way to go, but you should also keep in mind, expensive does not necessarily mean better credentials.
Go with your gut: Once you meet the surgeon, if something does not feel right, trust your gut. often when something is off, you’ll just feel it. Trust your instincts. They are often right.
Ask questions: when you meet with a surgeon, be sure to ask a lot of questions. Don’t feel you will be annoying the doctor or come off as paranoid. you have the right to ask as much as you need to in order to feel confident with your choice. Some questions to consider include:
How many years experience do you have?
How many similar procedures have you done?
Is there emergency equipment readily available during the surgery?
Is the surgery center accredited?
Are you board certified?
Additional Tips
A good surgeon should explain the procedure including the risks. The doctor should not rush through the appointment. questions should be encouraged. The surgeon should be open to answering questions not only about the procedure, but of the surgeon’s qualifications. It may seem like a lot of work to find the right surgeon, but it will be well worth the time and effort.
In one of those freak hate-fests that social media now regularly throw up, a 41-year-old blonde called Samantha Brick last week became one of the most talked-about women in Britain. she lamented, in the Daily Mail, the fact that her “lovely looks”, which turned men to putty, awakened so much female hostility. the article, clearly intended as a red rag fluttered towards a dozing bull, worked alarmingly well: the Twitter-bull awoke, snorted, charged and trampled Brick with immense ferocity. the gist of the criticism was that she was arrogant, deluded and not pretty enough to justify her self-praise.
Now, it must be said that there is something a little odd about Brick’s world-view. As her past articles have indicated, she left a career in television in England to live in rural France with an older, worryingly bossy French husband, who monitors her weight and selects her clothes, and who threatened yesterday to “intervene violently” to “protect” his wife. she was, she says, a plain child who grew into an attractive woman, and has evidently fixated on the politics of appearance ever since. It is her firm belief that women are automatically hostile to other good-looking women. she frequently cites instances of female unreasonableness based on jealousy, although – confusingly – she also insists she has a large group of female friends who aren’t like that at all.
It’s all a bit mixed-up and silly, and might be worthy of some mickey-taking. but it appears to have triggered great waves of rage, a mass, pop-eyed choleric explosion of “How dare she!”
On Thursday, Brick appeared on This Morning with Eamonn Holmes and his wife Ruth Langsford, and I couldn’t help feeling that President Assad of Syria would have had more congenial treatment. As the armchair drubbing went on, augmented by calls from angry viewers, I felt a bit sorry for Brick, who seemed nicer and more fragile on television. still she stuck to her guns and suggested that all this hostility was just the price she paid for being beautiful.
It was increasingly evident that Brick, with her blithely bragging article, had outraged some powerful modern taboo. the human race has always been obsessed by physical beauty, but never as relentlessly as in this age, in which we are constantly bombarded with fresh images of physical perfection. These are often of models, who are not only extraordinarily pretty but also extremely young, who have been elaborately coiffed and made up by experts, shot in the most flattering poses and light, and then had their images digitally retouched to erase any lingering imperfections. the prevalence of such pictures – in magazines, on the internet, on billboards, television and public transport – ensures that artful images of the tiny minority who have won the genetic lottery are almost as frequently before our eyes as the faces of family or colleagues.
Perceptions of normality have become skewed, and the bar of beauty is raised ever higher. Twenty or 30 years ago, most women were regarded as hot stuff if they regularly bothered to put on lipstick, mascara and a pair of heels. now the grooming industry has expanded to include waxing, eyelash extensions, semi-permanent make-up, Botox, chemical face peels, teeth-whitening and plastic surgery.
The devotees of this new cult, with their “trout pouts” and frozen faces, might be ridiculed in the celebrity magazines and tabloid press, but so is anyone ageing naturally. all of this comes with one unspoken decree: that you really should be unhappy with the way you look, particularly if you are female. you have every reason to be discontented: you are miles away from perfect. It is compulsory even for staggeringly photogenic film stars to regale the public with stories of how much they loathe their bodies.
The subtle dance of self-deprecation and reassurance that has long been a part of female bonding – “I like your jacket” “Do you really? I was worried it makes me look dumpy” – has hardened into something more malevolent, an active physical self-dislike now ingrained in many women, which has them lining up for surgical remedies.
A study conducted by the University of the West of England last year found that 46 per cent of the female university students surveyed had been bullied or ridiculed because of their appearance, and 39 per cent would have cosmetic surgery if money were no object. There hasn’t been any Twitter outcry about that.
If you think you’re “the business”, as Brick does, you’re an aberration. if you think you’re unacceptably ugly to the point of craving to be surgically refashioned, then congratulations: society thinks you’re normal.
In possession of a deadly slogan
It was reported last week that Ed Miliband has stolen George Osborne’s catchphrase “We’re all in this together” and appropriated it for the Labour Party. This is the political equivalent of liberating the Komodo dragon from London Zoo and transporting it home as a house pet: it’s a slogan destined to savage its owner.
When the Chancellor first declaimed the words, as an introduction to his austerity measures, I scented trouble ahead. They sounded good in the moment, with their suggestion of national struggle, but Osborne is the heir to a wallpaper fortune and earns a handsome salary. I say that only to point out that there is a glaring difference between his practical circumstances and a family on a modest income struggling increasingly hard to meet their monthly mortgage payments.
That disparity has become increasingly pronounced, not least because a series of Tory policies suggest the party’s top brass is out of touch with the anxieties of ordinary Britons. now Miliband, who lives in a £1.6 million house in north London, is to lay claim to the cry of communal pain. I am not suggesting that either Osborne or Miliband should feel guilty about being well off, but they are patently not “in this together” with a laid-off factory worker, and it is disingenuous to pretend they are. Osborne’s remark to the Daily Telegraph yesterday on his Budget – “I was trying to do the right thing” – is more cautious and less grating: Ed, take note.
Civility costs nothing. Maybe it shouldn’t
Dr Mary Bousted, the general secretary of the Association of Teachers and Lecturers, said last week that many parents are raising “little buddhas” who “are waited on hand and foot” at home, and then create problems with their impatient attitudes at school. she recommends the enforcement of manners, and the introduction of domestic chores.
There is indeed nothing worse than a display of Emperor Syndrome, evident in those children who peremptorily bark commands such as “Juice!” and “Ketchup!” while the adults scurry around like furtive, fearful servants.
Yet often the rudest children today come from competitive middle-class homes, and their free hours are crammed with expensive private tutors. Good manners, however, are even more advantageous in life than stellar A-levels, since they oil the machinery of every social transaction. It is dull but necessary to hear one’s own voice constantly droning “What’s the word?” in an attempt to jump-start a junior “please” or “thank you”.
Since some parents only seem to respect lessons that they pay for, perhaps they should consider a Manners Tutor.
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